In the past couple of years it has become common place for people to meet on the internet. For the most part the people you meet online are the same people you would meet at the local ball game or supermarket. Also, just as in real life there are some negative types as well.
You should approach women on the internet the same way you approach them in real life. People often make the mistake of being too uninhibited while they are chatting online. They feel that the net gives them a sense of anonymity. The reality is that eventually you will meet this person and you don’t want to have any awkward expectations between each other.
The number of sites where you can meet women on the internet are almost endless. There are a number of dating sites that you may be aware of through television commercials and advertisements. There are also social networking sites where people are linked together into a worldwide web of friendships, couples, and acquaintances.
The first thing most people do when they visit these sites is create their own personal profile. They create a brief collection of pictures and personal information which gives the world a snapshot of oneself.
Remember that if the primary purpose of your joining such sites is to meet women, then you will need to have a different profile than you would have if you were just joining the site to joke around with your buddies. Women will be taking your profile seriously in deciding whether or not you are dating material.
Therefore, spend a good deal of time figuring out how you will express yourself in your personal profile. If your goal is to meet women then there are a few questions to consider. What kind of woman are you looking for? How are you going to present yourself to such women?
How do you express what you are seeking in a woman without seeming too picky or having too low of standards? If you take these considerations into account when creating your profile, you will be heads above the male competition who just create their profiles while on their coffee break.
There are some major points to remember when creating your profile. Maintain an air of positive expectation. You would be surprised how many mans profiles come off a being desperate. Some of them even give laundry lists of their failures with women.
Instead you will be writing your profile in a tone which implies that it is no real big deal whether you meet women or not. Of course, you don’t want to sound so apathetic that it turns women off; you will just be letting women know that meeting women is not a life or death situation. This will make your profile much more appealing.
Next, provide a unique description of what type of woman you are looking for. This description may not be necessary on social networking sites, but is necessary when using a dating site. It is important to have a unique profile because women want to believe that they can spot unique mans.
Every woman wants to feel that her man in unique. Thus, you obviously would not want to rehash out old lines such as “likes long walks on the beach” or “just looking for someone cool.”
On the other hand, you obviously don’t want to give your life story. It is best to keep a profile simple and to the point. Most women will not spend their time reading through pages of information.
At the same time most women will pass by profiles that are too limited in their scope. About a page or so is all the information a woman needs to get in contact with you.
Keep in mind that women approach dating sites with a different mindset than men. Women being less physically able to defend themselves compared to men are likely to be more cautious in their approach.
Their first priority is to meet someone who is safe. Everything else is secondary. While it is often said that women seek out men who have dangerous sides, this does not mean that they re seeking out men who could pose threats to life and limb.
Therefore, write your profile in a tone which makes women think you are like the friendly man next door.
Another thing to consider would be spelling and grammar. Women can be turned off by one misspelled word. For the most part women are seeking men who have at least the same or higher status than themselves. This means that they will be seeking men who are at least generally educated and intelligent to some degree.
Of course, some women will be seeking thug like men who write their entire profile in slang because that is the environment they were raised in. However, to be successful with the widest range of women, stick to articulate standard English, and double and triple check your spelling and grammar. This way you also show women that you pay attention to detail.
As you are writing your profile keep the topics light and positive. If you list anything that is overtly religious or political you will alienate a lot of women who would potentially be interested in you and the only women who would respond would be those that hold very similar ideologies.
Another thing to consider is whether or not to use humor in your profile. Of course, you do not want to make your profile appear boring or dry. It is ok to add some humor. However, a number of men plaster their profiles with jokes and can come off as immature to women.
Most women are seeking out men who are mature and stable. Women are not looking at mens profiles to be amused, they are looking at them to see if they are serious dating material. Thus, it is ok to add a few lines of humor, but the rest of your profile should be on point with women.
As you are finishing writing your profile, you will inevitably be given the choice of what picture to upload to your profile. If you are posting a picture to a dating site you will want to present a picture which will attract the type of women who you are seeking.
For example if you are in college, and you are seeking college age women, you can attract such women right off the bat by wearing a piece of clothing such a hat or a shirt with your school symbols on it.
If you are the dark dressed artistic type and you are seeking a similar type of woman you would wear a dark outfit and have an art gallery in the photos background. It is not completely necessary to use such photos.
You could be wearing an average outfit, standing in front of an average background, but such a photo would not attract the type of woman you are looking for as quickly as a photo which exhibits the style and environment that is particularly suited to you and the type of woman you want to attract.
As you finish your profile you will want to spend some time searching the profiles that women created for themselves. Since you love and respect yourself you will seek women who love and respect themselves. This means that you will want to reject any women who’s profiles come off as bitter, desperate, condescending, angry, immature, or anti-social.
Life is too short to be wasted on a woman with an unhealthy mental state. Unfortunately, a large number of men choose their mates according to looks first, and everything else last.
If you are looking to have casual sex with attractive women who are into the same thing then there is nothing wrong with that. As adults we make our own choices weighing the risks of sexually transmitted diseases, moral or religious issues, with our goals and desires.
However, my goal is to help men achieve success with women who are not only physically attractive, but who have an attractive personality as well. The problem is that when men date women based on looks alone, they ultimately become jaded from their experiences with women who’s mental or emotional problems they overlooked.
It is at this point where men begin to withdraw from relationships as they see women as only causing trouble in their lives. Instead, you should seek out women who lift you up instead of pull you down with them.
So, as you look over the thousands of women’s profiles you will be sifting through them until you get a collection of profiles that seem the best. This is only the first step as you still do not know what makes these women tick.
As, you start contacting these women through email or instant messaging you will begin to get a clearer picture of their personas. There are a few things to keep in mind when you get to this point. The first one being how will you prepare your initial introduction.
A good rule of thumb is to keep your initial email about a paragraph in size. This way you give a some information about yourself and you state what it was in her that caught your interest. The only purpose the first contact is to provide and introduction.
A number of men make the mistake of writing their first response in a cute way or they provide a cookie cutter response. Men often make the mistake of sending one sentence responses such as “You are pretty hot. Let’s get together sometime” or “check out my profile.” These responses ultimately get ignored or deleted. Instead, you should make your response a basic one which sends a clear and unique message.
Mention something unique that you liked about her, and give a little information about yourself. This way she will see you as a mature individual who is secure enough in himself to be himself. Also, make your response brief. Women find it strange to receive long emails from men whom they have never met before.
It sometimes can take up to a few days or even a week to get a response back from a woman. If you still have not received a response after a week has passed it is likely that she is not interested. On the flip side, the quicker you get a response back the more likely that she is interested in you.
It is important to give women at least a few days to respond to an email because women nowadays are busier than ever, holding down jobs, and other responsibilities. They may check their inbox only once or twice a week.
Be aware that a few of the dating sites have been accused of having their employees put up fake profiles to attract unsuspecting customers. The employees are told to contact males who’s subscriptions are about to expire, so the men will repurchase some more time to use the site.
Therefore, if you get a response from a woman who seems too good to be true it probably is. In fact there are a lot of bogus sites where the majority of the profiles are fake, usually consisting of hundreds of profiles of people claiming to be highly sexually active 19 year old women.
Men pay money to join these websites only to find that they have been hoaxed. Therefore, it is best to stick to only the most well known and credible dating or social networking sites.
Most likely, if you have a decent profile, you will get at least a few replies from real women. At this point you can start sharing more personal information with each other.
It is as if you met a woman out in the real world and now you are talking to each other on the phone for the first time. You should communicate with her as if you were seated in front of each other in real life.
As I pointed out earlier men often make the mistake of being too uninhibited when they are chatting with women online. Women will seem more uninhibited also, but they will still be expecting men to behave they way they should in the real world.
So, you will likely be flirting with each other from the outset. This is setting a good tone for the future. However, overtly sexual language should be avoided until you know each other enough to express such things to each other.
Of course, some women like to move things faster than other women and you should follow along at the same level as her sexual language. If the two of you already know that the purpose of your contacting each other is for casual sex then what can be said is pretty much open.
However, if you are communicating for the purposes of starting a genuine relationship then more moderate language would be more likely to smooth things forward.
There should be about equal contact between each other. There is chemistry when each person is emailing or instant messaging each other in roughly equal amounts.
If you feel like you are doing most of the contacting then it could simply mean that you are more interested in her than she is interested in you, or it may be a sign for you to limit the number of times you email her.
Likewise, if she is contacting you ten times a day it may be a sign of desperation. It is best to avoid desperate women. People are desperate when they have a low self-image and if they are unable to love themselves it will be unlikely that they will be able to fully love you.
It’s probably best that you meet women in a public place like a local coffee shop or some place that you would both find familiar. This way if things don’t work out you can easily go your separate ways.
There should be no expectation of whining and dining on the first night. This way you are not being used as a free meal ticket. It more likely you will talk for a little while over a couple drinks or an inexpensive meal at a well known location. You could think of it as being your first date together but in a more laid back style.
At this point you leave the realm of internet dating and all of the real world examples would apply to the rest of the relationship. You may have chemistry with the first person that that meet in person, or you may find yourself dating dozens of women until you meet the right one.